Those who know me know I am open and honest. I’ve never felt I had to hide who I was or what I did. Part of that I am sure is luck, growing up in such a liberal and tolerant place helps. The other part of it is just who I am. Even as a child I had no issue expressing my opinions and what I thought. I am blessed in that my family is so open minded.
As I began to practice Wicca I heard the stories about those who had to hide it because of discrimination or intolerance etc. I wondered if that was part of why so many insisted that anything to do with the faith be kept secret and quiet. I never understood the need since anywhere I went I met those who were willing to accept and ask questions.
Others explained to me that part of it was that the Craft was meant to be hidden. As a Mystery religion so many things are so personal, so many things are unique to each individual. You can’t tell someone what initiation will be like because it will be different for each person.
There are some who think any who speak publicly about their faith are breaking some unwritten Craft rule. There are some who think the Faith is supposed to kept so quiet that even your family doesn’t know about it. I am quite obviously not one of those people.
I think Faith is personal yes, I think it can be private, but I also think it should be accessible to those who want it. And if we go too deep into hiding the Seekers can’t find it. I know, I know a Seeker will always find a teacher, but lets be honest, if all the ethical and good Wiccan teachers go into hiding all that will be left for the Seekers will be those who do harm.
We all know they exist. Those who “teach” only to gain power. Those who “teach” so that they can manipulate and build their own mini empire. Those that stand loud and proud and spout conflicting statements and do nothing but cause fear, confusion and drama.
If all the teachers who actually teach to spread knowledge and help others vanish from sight we do a disservice to the community.
So I think there must be a balance. There need to be some who are open and out there to help prove we aren’t “bad. There needs to be resources available for the community and for new people.
However, I am going to have to change how I do things. Things in my life have changed and as much as I hate it I will have to hide some parts. I will still blog, but some of the deeper things may end up behind password protected posts available only to some.
I always worry that when we start hiding things then others can use that as a weapon “See they must be doing something wrong, they keep it secret”. I was asked why I hadn’t hidden my blog from the public when a certain situation happened in my life and that was the big thing for me. If I hid it then I looked guilty. And I have nothing to be guilty about when it comes to my Faith. If its secret then people can let their imaginations run wild and lets be honest, most the time what I blog about is pretty normal.
Add to that I think there is far too many elitist attitudes in Wicca. Too many people are all “No you can only be Wiccan if you do these things” Excuse me, thats a load of bull. The Gods speak to us all in their own way. Self initiation is just as legit as a coven initiation. The Gods make the choice who are their children and I don’t think it matters if you didn’t do a ritual from a specific sect of Wicca. Brit trad isn’t the only trad out there. Neither is Dianic, neither is Faery… etc. Each path has its own way of worshiping and there are those who are out there with their big stick trying to push people into doing it the “right way”. There is no right way. I’ve ranted about this before so I’ll keep it short. Every path is valid. From Eclectic, to Stregha, to Alexandrian, to Gardnerian… etc.
I feel that as long as there are voices out there letting people know that it is ok to do things in a way that makes sense to them, then we can hopefully keep the big egos in check.
So I will still blog, just with a bit of censoring. My life has changed, I am in a new place, meeting new people and about to start a new journey in my Faith. And let’s face it, not everyone here is as open and out as I am. I shall respect the need to be silent. And I shall respect those around me that feel I am too out there, while still respecting my belief system and my way of being open.